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05-05-2006, 12:18 PM Glamourella Joined on 01-28-2006 Cali Rank NA Sex on the first date? Some of my friends were talking about this, my friend went on a 13 hour date Noon-1 am, and then crashing at the guys place. What do you think about this? What do you think about sex on the first date in general? What do you think is acceptable on the first date, kissing, holding hands...or nothing? Or do you say just go with the flow?    Report

05-05-2006, 12:26 PM IrresistableStitch Joined on 01-12-2006 San Francisco - East Bay Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? Define a date. Because this is where it can get tricky. What if someone has been chatting with someone for a while on the net, say about 2. 5 years.  Then they meet for the first time, after having chatted all those years, and have sex? What if they have been friends for years, and finally started to get "intimate feelings" for each other, decide to go on a date, and end it with sex? What if these people have mutual friends, have seen each other at parties, finally go out alone and have sex afterward?     I think it depends, honestly.  I think that if the people are on a blind date, and have sex, then thats a little bit too soon.   However, it does depend on the intensity. Its like one-night stand.  Are they wrong for happening?  Depends. Drunken-sex.  Same boat.  Is it wrong?  Depends.   Depends on how you view sex.  Some people believe that it needs to be held until marriage, so they I assume, would say it is wrong. Me, I have obviously had sex before marriage.  I say it just really depends on the two people involved in the scenario.  If they feel the "urge"  why not splurge??     Wear a condom.     I want my everyday to be a holiday!    Report

05-05-2006, 3:07 PM Miuccia79 Joined on 03-08-2006 Paris Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? i think it's perfectly acceptable-- if she felt comfortable with him and had an attraction, why not?    Report

05-05-2006, 3:36 PM smurf Joined on 03-14-2006 NYC Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? It depends on the situation, but if they are just going with the flow and doing what they feel is right....then why not? I slept with my husband on the first date and I couldn't be happier now! We just both felt it was right. It was not just a drunk fest where I was just using bad judgement! A good read... michellemalkin.com    Report

05-05-2006, 4:30 PM IrresistableStitch Joined on 01-12-2006 San Francisco - East Bay Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? I've been on both ends of the spectrum. had sex with a guy whom I had been chatting with for over 2 years on the first night we met face to face.  We ended up dating for the next 3 years.  Also, in another instance, I had been chatting / internet dating a dude for a few months, we finally met face to face and didn't have sex for about a week after our 1st f2f meeting. Also been in the situation where I was dating a guy for awhile, and not having sex till about 2.5 weeks into it (still with him).   It just depends on so many factors. Mood, feelings, comfort, setting, trust...etc.     I want my everyday to be a holiday!    Report

05-05-2006, 4:50 PM cyka Joined on 01-05-2006 Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? i say NO! don't do it on the 1st day if you want the guy to take you seriously, because he'll quickly lose interest if you do it on the first date!  even if he DOES end up dating you, he'll always think you're loose because he'll assume you've behaved this way with all the guys you dated before him.    Report

05-05-2006, 5:13 PM Koki Joined on 01-04-2006 Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? Protection is the key. It really just depends on what kind of date. Safety should always be no.1 on the list of priorities.. have fun of course but stay safe ~`~`check out my bags`~`~    Report

05-05-2006, 5:50 PM Man in Black Joined on 01-09-2006 Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? i think its fine, if you are comfortable. it doesn't make you skanky, or dirty. I had sex with my boyfriend the first night we kissed - not even our first date. We had mutual friends and hung out a lot, we weren't drunk, but we were attracted to each other, and we will move in together soon. I trusted him and trusted myself, and it turned out extremely well.    Report

05-05-2006, 10:03 PM ScrewDestiny Joined on 04-13-2006 Evanston, WY Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? And I thought it was bad when I slept with my boyfriend after two months and three weeks of dating him.  And I'd known him for quite a while before we started dating. I personally think sex on the first date is skanky.  Sorry to anyone out there who's done it.  And I'm not saying it'll always turn out badly, I just don't think you should give it up that quickly.  Plus, it seems like that would take away a lot of the anticipation.  After all, I think that's half the fun. "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." - Marianne Williamson    Report

05-05-2006, 11:12 PM espressoshot Joined on 02-01-2006 Philly / New York / Poland Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? Like Snitch up there said, it depends. I would not reccomend taking any trips down south if you barely know each other or if it's a blind date.  You're recieving all of these emotions and a mistake can very easily be made. Hello, regret maybe?   But, if this is your first time out and you've met on-line or something, it really depends how that person feels about him and how comfortable she is around him.  If he respects her, he WILL wait.  Yes, he'll be horny. And yes, she'll dissappoint him. But, how many times has a guy gone hard for a girl at strip club, through porn, or through a random someone strolling around in public?  It HAPPENED before, it can HAPPEN again.  Because If he respects you, he'll wait.  The point is you have his respect and that's crucial. Just make sure you don't pull any cute c o c ktease acts (afterwards) which can turn from cute to very annoying.  You either want him or you don't?   Learn the value of self-control too.  But, what if he doesn't respect you?  And you're starting to feel uncomfortable around him?  Get the hell out of there. It's your body and you shouldn't be promoting yourself like that.  Not to impress someone. Not because it's competition.  That's just lame.   hot child in the city, runnin wild and looking pretty... Aging is not 'lost youth' but a new stage of opportunity and strength.    Report

05-24-2006, 6:47 PM Michelle Joined on 03-14-2006 Canada Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? i'm  way to paranoid to ever do anything like that. I would like to know the person who i am sleeping with very well. But if someone is going to, being safe and responsible is key.    Report

05-26-2006, 11:09 PM fashion_bible Joined on 01-03-2006 manhattan nyc uptown Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? maybe . yes "....and she'd over-dosed on magazines.... just fade to grey...."    Report

05-31-2006, 1:04 PM existentially_dressed Joined on 01-11-2006 Houston, TX Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? something else to consider is that if it is not someone you have known for a while, or have been friends with, etc.  you are inviting this person into your home.  they see your routine, how you lock your doors, etc.  i don't mean to sound paranoid but stalkers happen, and they are scary. Don't be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. -Ralph Waldo Emerson    Report

06-12-2006, 12:25 PM iHeartLoehmans Joined on 06-06-2006 Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? I like to make out on the first date. I wouldn't have sex on the first date though....maybe the second. haha.    Report

09-14-2006, 1:04 AM TwicelyOverpriced Joined on 02-11-2006 Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date?  Miuccia79 wrote: i think it's perfectly acceptable-- if she felt comfortable with him and had an attraction, why not?   I agree. As long as he doesn't kick her out when he's done. Ugh. **I am Lux Alumni** Love me or hate me I'm always tiwcely overpriced..    Report

09-14-2006, 11:17 AM label_whore313 Joined on 12-29-2005 Im bringin sexy baaaaaaack Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date?  iHeartLoehmans wrote: I like to make out on the first date. I wouldn't have sex on the first date though....maybe the second. haha. I LOVE to make out on the first date.  But with all these cold sores and herpes going around, its just not a good idea. Its so much better to never lose it, than to lose it and get it back--you can always tell the difference. With that said, most people never get it back, so if you get it back after you lost it, thats better than losing it forever.    Report

09-14-2006, 11:56 AM IrresistableStitch Joined on 01-12-2006 San Francisco - East Bay Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date?   ya...def. gotta watch out for those silent carriers....     I want my everyday to be a holiday!    Report

01-25-2007, 11:21 AM Dolce_Vita Joined on 01-25-2007 Toronto Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? I think it's mostly fine, unless one or both of them are drunk. Although, for someone to have sex on EVERY first date they go on, maybe it's not alright.    * * * L I V E * * I N * * L O V E * * *    Report

01-31-2007, 6:19 PM label_whore313 Joined on 12-29-2005 Im bringin sexy baaaaaaack Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? Has anyone done a one-nighter when they WEREN'T drunk?  See, thats the thing.....I dont think anyone sober would have sex on the first date. haha  So yeah, if you're drunk, then dont do it.  Good advice.  And if he cant wait until the 2nd date, then screw him! (not literally) Its so much better to never lose it, than to lose it and get it back--you can always tell the difference. With that said, most people never get it back, so if you get it back after you lost it, thats better than losing it forever.    Report

02-22-2007, 10:21 AM Dolce_Vita Joined on 01-25-2007 Toronto Rank NA Re: Sex on the first date? I had sex on my first date with my current beau ... but that was just because everything was too good .... and I was down. I maybe had two glasses of champagne ... definitely NOT enough to get me drunk. I also had sex with another guy on our first date. I think for me it's not that bad because I don't go out with a lot of people on dates, like I don't give a lot of people chances. I have to be down for this person to go on a date with them *or they have to be an extremely sexy stranger* ..... * * * L I V E * * I N * * L O V E * * *    Report

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