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   12-18-2006, 7:15 PM
G.O.P 531 is not online. Last active: 3/24/2007 2:34:53 AM G.O.P 531



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new relationship - advice
i may start a new relationship soon, and i was wondering if you guys can give me some advice.
ive had a few partners and only one ex boyfriend knows the true amount (besides two of my closest friends)
i want to be in an honest relationship but i feel uncomfortable divulgiving this information, as i dont want to scare away the person and i dont think it really matters to be honest.

what do you guys think - in a new relationship is it always necessary to share intimate details about all your previous relationships or partners?

thanks in advance :)


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   12-18-2006, 9:01 PM
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Re: new relationship - advice

I'd say don't tell...none of his business, and all it could do is hurt you, not help you.  It's one thing if someone has an STD and doesn't tell his/her partner (which is definitely wrong), but not telling him how many people you've slept with is fine.  To be honest, my husband doesn't even know how many people I slept with before we started dating, and he and I are both fine with that.  It never came up in discussions, probably because he didn't want to know.

 


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   12-18-2006, 9:38 PM
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Re: new relationship - advice
for now, he doesnt know anything about my past relationships, but i think you are definetly right, i'll play it by ear and see how it goes, i dont think it will come up, at least i hope not. thanks so much for responding :)

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   12-19-2006, 7:49 PM
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Re: new relationship - advice
anyone else?

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   12-25-2006, 7:30 PM
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if something comes up and he asks be honest but if there are no questions then there are no lies -
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   12-25-2006, 9:53 PM
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Re: new relationship - advice
sometimes, a situation will be so emotionally intimate you'll both end up wanting to share those kinds of details. otherwise, it's your business until you want it to be his.
the sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you-- dear prudence-- won't you open up your eyes?
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   01-03-2007, 8:47 PM
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I usually ask, so I usually tell. But most of the time if I don't ask they don't ask, so I don't volunteer the info. A lot of men insist they don't care if your number is higher than theirs, but I think they are lying.
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   01-03-2007, 11:27 PM
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Re: new relationship - advice
Just don't tell. They say they want the truth but they can't handle the truth. My mom said never tell, so I went against her advice and when my hubby is upset about some thing he'll try to find a way to bring up the number, and what's crazy is most men will tell you "I don't know" or "too many" but won't give a direct answer but you say 5 and they're like OMG!!! That is your business and as long as you don't have an S-T-D then you don't need to share sexual history, but if you want to test his commitment say 62 and see what he says,lol.
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   01-14-2007, 2:37 PM
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Re: new relationship - advice
haha thats pretty funny.

but yeah i totally see what u mean. i toldmy ex my # and he would always throw it in my face during arguments...

so yep, im not telling :)

thanks everyone soo much for their help!


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   01-15-2007, 10:01 AM
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Re: new relationship - advice
Totally none of his business! It has no bearing on the current relationship so why does it matter? I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I don't know nor do I care to know. It simply doesn't matter.

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